Wednesday, January 06, 2010

Has it really been less than a week into the new year? It sure has been a long week. It has been a hard week. It has been a crazy week.

I did make a New Year's resolution this year. I do not usually do that, because honestly, who keeps them? Well, this year, I have made a resolution to preserve my mental health; to take care of me.

You see, I am a social worker. I come by it naturally. I have always been the one people come to when they have a problem. I am a good listener, and usually have something helpful to say. The problem with being me is that often other people's problems become my problems. I have a tendency to internalize other people's issues. Then they eat away at me. I lay away at night crying over something that I cannot fix. Things that I should be expected to be able to fix, or even listen to. So, this year, I resolve to draw lines. I resolve to tell people, "I'm not going to talk about that" or "listen to that." I expect that those who love me will respect this. I hope that they will understand. Because, they are killing me. I cannot keep being the family social worker.

I am going to take care of me for a change. I cannot be a good social worker if I don't. I love what I do and I want to give it my best. I owe my real clients the best social worker. I owe my family the best wife and mom. I owe myself my best me! So here's to the best me in 2010!

3 comments:

sportzmom said...

Amen to that!

Anonymous said...

Hurrah!!!

Melissa Ens said...

Good resolution girlfriend! Hope you keep it... speaking of taking care of yourself... are you coming on the women's retreat??? ;) It was so good to see you at church today. Sorry I didn't get to chat with you more! At least I got a hug. : )